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                 The Power of Pattern

Have you ever wondered why we keep repeating the same self-limiting patterns despite our best intentions to find an abundant life?  We see other people who clearly have figured out something that helps them experience a deeply satisfying joy in their lives – so we know it’s possible.  Until we come to grips with the adaptive power of our brain and its influence over our life’s circumstance, we will continue repeating the same things that have kept us from a fulfilling life.  We keep running into the same brick walls, stumbling into the same traps, repeating the same behaviors, and wondering why things don’t work out for us in relationships or life in general.  It’s much like what the Apostle Paul wrote about nearly 2000 years ago:

      “I do not understand what I do.  For what I want to do I do not, but what I hate

         to do.  For I have the desire to do what is good, but I cannot carry it out.”

                                                                                                                          Romans 7:15-20          

The key feature is understanding how this power of bio-cognitive adaptation becomes embedded physically into who we believe we are both psychologically and spiritually.  The original purpose of the pattern was to protect us from a disruption to our intrinsic needs for Connection and Cherishment.   This disruption creates a Core Wound that our survival minded brain organizes around. 

This process is demonstrated by the child defending                                          

herself from the harsh criticism and helplessness as depicted by a client’s drawing on the right.

 But once we create the pattern, the pattern

begins to create us.  Because this process happens early in our formative years (before we can even think), we literally close off further opportunity to grow beyond the

pattern that was originally set up to protect us.  (The girl in the drawings at the right is literally imprinting the mold for future relationships as an adult.) Then we get stuck in pattern.  To get a  better understanding of how all this works,  go to the pages —    

              Getting the Life You Deserve

            (press here to go to a description now)

              or the seminar            

                                                                                  (needs for safe Connection and Cherishment being                                                                                                           disrupted leading to defensive pattern)

            Pattern Workshop

               (press here to read a description now)

Both will explain in more detail the complex relationship between our neuro– and evolutionary biology, attachment to our caretakers, psychology, and spirituality.  Not only will it give you a new perspective on how you came to be the person you are, but also how to change what you see as possible in your life. Unhappiness, anxiety, relationship problems, type-A personalities, procrastination, fear of failure, fear of success, even persistent luck will be cast into a new understanding.  In particular you will learn about  how to manage the body and calm the incessant chatter of the mind to access a deeper sense of your spirituality, which opens up new frontiers for us to heal and transform the Core Wound behind the pattern — using an open-minded, welcoming Christian perspective.