Use a scale of 1-5 to describe how much you identify with the pattern.

                           1 = very little 2 = some 3 = moderately 4 = much of the time 5 = that’s me

Take a pencil or pen and write your answers on a separate piece of paper.  Keep track of  the question number and the level of how much you identify with it.

       1.)  1-2-3-4-5    I push people away when they get too close.

      2.)  1-2-3-4-5    I pick people who I shouldn’t trust.

      3.)  1-2-3-4-5    I believe if I’m nice enough, people will like me – but I keep getting hurt.

      4.)  1-2-3-4-5    If I work hard, I should make it – but something keeps getting in the way.

      5.)  1-2-3-4-5    I give up, nothing good will ever happen for me.

      6.)  1-2-3-4-5    If there weren’t bad luck, I would have no luck at all.

      7.)  1-2-3-4-5    If things start going good, something is going to go wrong.

      8.)  1-2-3-4-5    I need someone to be with me or I start feeling lonely.

      9.)  1-2-3-4-5    If I let them get too close, I will be engulfed.

     10.) 1-2-3-4-5    I need to be in control, or it won’t get done.

     11.) 1-2-3-4-5    I lose interest after initial excitement.

     12.) 1-2-3-4-5    I will ignore a problem until it bites me.

     13.) 1-2-3-4-5    I choke when opportunity knocks.

     14.) 1-2-3-4-5    I don’t stretch myself because I fear what may happen

     15.) 1-2-3-4-5    I never put much effort into things – that way I’m not disappointed.

     16.) 1-2-3-4-5    I’m attracted to people who are bad for me, and ignore those who are good

                              for me.      

     17.) 1-2-3-4-5    If I don’t get my way I bully, shame, or guilt people into compliance.

     18.) 1-2-3-4-5    I seem to isolate myself from others.

     19.) 1-2-3-4-5    I try to “look good” to gain others’ respect and/or envy.

     20.) 1-2-3-4-5    Every time I get close to succeeding, something happens.

     21.) 1-2-3-4-5    Relationships start out great, then I find things wrong about my partner

     22.) 1-2-3-4-5    I put off things till they have to be done.

     23.) 1-2-3-4-5    I put myself down even though I know I can do it.

     24.) 1-2-3-4-5    I submit to keep peace in the family, though I’m not happy.

     25.) 1-2-3-4-5    People always end up leaving me.

What are the patterns that best describes your situation?

It will be the ones that are in the 4-5 range.  As you move over two entrenched patterns, you probably will notice a sense of emptiness and/or longing in your life.  These are the areas that are speaking to you about laying down blame of others or self to discover what lies behind the pattern.  You choice is to continue creating the life you currently are living or to begin a new journey of discovery, change, healing, power, and transformation.

Which one(s) speak to you the loudest? Does the pattern limit you? Do you want to do something about it?

Look over other locations of this website including:

The Power of Pattern

                                                                                 Getting the Life You Deserve